Getting Started

How do you begin? By determining interest. Sample enthusiasm by talking to a few of your closest relatives. If they express interest, ask them to help plan the occasion.

How far in advance should you plan? It depends on the scope of the gathering you have in mind.

• Will it be modest, requiring a minimum of preparation? If so, you will only need a few weeks of lead time to allow your relatives to include the event in schedules.

• Will it take the form of a reception and dinner at a restaurant? Again, only a few weeks of advance notice will be needed. Because the restaurant will handle food preparation, even less work will be required.

• On the other extreme, the event could attract family members from around the country and require more planning.

• Generally, the earlier you invite people, the more will be able to attend. (Don't forget reminders, however.)

• Holiday weekends are planned far in advance by many people. So give sufficient notice.